Most of us start out with a loose idea of what we want out of life, or maybe you had no idea, or if you’re one of those few rare individuals – a clear idea. Whatever your starting point, what usually happens is we either reverse engineer the things we need to do and/or stumble along in the vague direction of the destination we’d hoped for. Then we get there and realise it’s not all it’s cracked up to be – somewhere along the way, things got a little off-track. Most of us never aspired to be an average person working in a cubicle at a job we don’t enjoy!
When we start the journey, we rarely ask ourselves, “Who do I want to be?” And then from that place, make the choices and take the actions that lead us to a destination we’re happy with and fulfilled by.
When you can be the person you’ve always wanted to be, your self-concept will be perfect. Isn’t this what everyone dreams about? When you’re the person you want to be, you’ll have the life you desire. You’ll rise above the idea of a “self-concept”.
So how do you consciously decide who you want to be, here are a few prompts to get you musing:
- Who do you admire and why?
Do you wish you were more like Oprah? Why? Are you a fan of Ameila Earhart? Marie Curie? Or perhaps, Maya Angelou or Malala Yousafzai? Why? - What personal qualities have you always admired in others? What 3 words would describe your ideal self?
Charismatic, confident, mentally tough, kind, calm under pressure, happy? - What can you do today to start being the person you’ve always wanted to be?
There’s no one that can stop you. Anyone who tries to get in your way can be ignored. Be on a mission to become the person you would admire.
This is the ultimate goal. If you’re the person you wish to be and living the life you desire, your opinion of yourself will be at the highest possible level. Everything else is just a stepping stone to reach this point.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ~Lao-Tzu
Your self-concept has been shaped by your past. Or rather, your perception of your past. Review the uncomfortable experiences from your past and find a more positive resolution. Remember that the past is over, and no indication of what the future can hold. The past is only a limitation if you allow it to be.
Building your self-esteem will give you the fuel to alter your self-concept. This is an ongoing process. You already have plenty of reasons to be happy with yourself. Ensure you remind yourself of how wonderful you are!
Enhance your life in every possible way. By creating and living the life you desire, your self-concept will change. And start acting like the person you know you could be. This is really the key to the ideal self-concept. When you have evidence that you’re living your idea of the right life and being the right person, you’ve achieved the ultimate high performance life.
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